There is an already well-developed (& expanding) section in the Integral Permaculture Manual for how to DO Evolutionary Relationships, in practice, here >> http://bit.ly/PeopleCare
Our aim is to apply all those models, information, techniques & objectives to building & evolving our relationships, as a critical base for this project.
In this way we hope to make our premises explicit, clear & transparent (& therefore questionable), & so decrease the likely-hood of risking the health of the project to habitual or irrational (& usually assumed) beliefs we carry.
All of us have of course learned many of toxic habits & concepts as we grew up in a culture with plenty of those, and our job here is to question them, evolve past them & learn new forms of relating - not just to our environment, but to each other & ourselves.
We don't pretend to know what all those are, but commit to learn, study & apply from the best proven & practical, logical, coherent & most effective sources we can find (not to stay with what is most habitual or comfortable for us), and to honestly document & share our work & process.
Interestingly, we've had people say that they didn't find any mention of the sacred, or of spirituality in this presentation of the 8thLife EcoVillage project.
For those who don't see any spirituality or sacred work in giving our lives to the service of the Earth & the evolution of a rational humanity, we suggest watching this very useful video, "Know Thyself".
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As pointed out in the excellent article on how to form community... is Select for Emotional Well-Being. We've had lots of fun conversations about this.
How do you 'select for emotional well-being'? Would we be able to recognize well-adjusted people if we met them? How emotionally balanced can any person who's the product of the destructo-culture get anyway? (without living in sustainable community at least for a while ... that's why we want to create sustainable communities: only sane-ish people can re-design some kind of sane society, after all).
The chicken-&-egg nature of this question is covered in the article, as are some proposed ways to try to select for emotional maturity in the founding group. We have plenty more to add to that, from our 8yrs of intensive action-learning experience which has brought us face-to-face with the worst (and also the most repetitive) of the emotional wounds this society inflicts on people. Unfortunately we don't have the resources to be a healing-place for too many of those right now, by ourselves, although we hope to add to that much-needed resource in some not-too-distant future.
What we need now are people
who are emotionally ahead-enough
on that path
to be able to co-create the exit-velocity
to start a community
based on a deep commitment to reversing
the destructive path of current society,
supported by rational agreements,
& lots of determination,
creativity & skill.
We realize we are asking a lot. And we are prepared to work hard &/or wait a long time for people (& agreements) with these basic qualities, because settling for anything less at this point would just mean lowering our existing standards of living & also fail to create an eco-village in the process (we are very happy with our unusually creative lives, live well, have worked very hard to get here and are with this project inviting other suitable people to join us in enjoying the additional bounty we can create together).
The crucial thing to understand is that we are looking for founder members. So of course we're extra-careful about who we are going to welcome into our home right now, at this early stage. Here are some basic criteria that describe the kind of evolved integrity (or emotional maturity) we are looking for in the pioneering people.
We agree that in order to evolve human societies we need to engage in evolutionary relationships.
This is a definition of "Evolutionary Relationship" from Andrew Cohen's work
We agree that the context for our relationship will be leaning into our evolutionary edges.
Rather than meeting in our limitations and problems, fears and
doubts, we take a stand for meeting in the expression of our
We take up the challenge of showing up and engaging from that place, stretching to manifest that potential now, and explore that potential with each other.
Basically this means we all agree, on joining this project, that we are eager to change & grow, by learning & trying new things (starting with all or any of the models in the e-book, and proposing more effective ones as we come across them), rather than assume we are 'finished' or 'fixed', as we are, at any one time.
We use RC Theory as a basic model & understanding to support each other in evolutionary relationships as it is one of the simplest, most effective & well-developed models for self-help in dealing with the tensions between thinking & feeling that characterizes so much destructive conflict.
It basically consists of people taking turns to listen to each other, with deep respect & good attention (which we learn how to provide & use). It doesn't rely on therapists or any special equipment, as all the listening tools can be learned by anyone who is willing to learn, & there is a wider world-community for reference & support, which is itself constantly questioning the suppositions of the theory, experimenting & evolving.
This is one of the best & longest-tested practical & immediately usable human liberation philosophy we have to date, so we teach it on the Integral Permaculture Course as well as encourage especially activists to adapt it & apply it to designing their personal support-structures for their difficult work.
This model is coherent with all the other tools & models also listed in the PeopleCare section of the e-book, and we use all of these, flexibly & as proposed by the members, who are all expected to take a pro-active & group attitude to designing this as all other parts of the eco-village, as per the two directives of permaculture: be pro-active (take 100% responsibility for our own lives) + cooperate.
So the EcoListening network & courses are being developed to apply this model specifically to social & environmental activists: ecolistening.integralpermaculture.org
In October 2012 we started the first Introduction to EcoListening Course (in spanish) on the finca, with the great group of people who are now committed residents + a bunch of allies - all of whom are interested in exploring this tool to deepen & strengthen relationships.
In October 2013 we ran a mini-course again, this time as a study-group, with past students as facilitators, in order to widen our network of support & deepen our relationships further.
This is primarily an action-learning & action-research project, so we commit to document our designs as well as personal processes (all ideas, plans, results, successes & failures) in order for this project to serve the wider community - whether we fail or succeed in our aims.
By actively & consciously experimenting with the models & tools in the Integral PC Manual, we are continually questioning them in the most strict & holistic of laboratory of all: complex real life.
As permaculture action-research scientists we commit to -
1) aim to hold no dogmas (unquestionable assumptions or un-founded beliefs),
2) put all of our models to test in our own lives, individually & collectively, &
3) offer constructive & doable proposals for every doubt or criticism we have of ours or others' work or behavior (we are not interested in academic or philosophical discussion unless they lead to useful practical experimentation)
So it is important to document our work, and each resident agrees to contribute actively & regularly to this process.
It would be an understatement
to say that the path
toward great relationship is
not necessarily a straight one.
Like most paths,
it has plenty of curves,
switchbacks, and rocky sections
(and vanishing signposts),
asking for a clear eye,
and steady footing,
all centered by the willingness
to turn toward the difficult
It is an adventure
for which we were born,
asking everything of us
and giving back
Robert Augustus Masters
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